Understanding Trump and the US via trauma. Hope for a better way.
This is true.
It is also impossible for someone to feel their pain without a compassionate witness. Trauma is too much for many to feel. https://t.co/3NZZNFHLVZ
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
Most important thing the US could do is to put @RootsofEmpathy in every school and provide good counseling for all kids starting in nursery https://t.co/3NZZNFHLVZ
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
Centering the feminine and feeling is key to changing our political situation. We'll only feel our way out. #patriarchy https://t.co/Vsa76JVetg
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
Centering the feminine and feeling is key to changing our political situation. We'll only feel our way out. #patriarchy https://t.co/Vsa76JVetg
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
This is true.
It is also impossible for someone to feel their pain without a compassionate witness. Trauma is too much for many to feel. https://t.co/3NZZNFHLVZ
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
Some project outwardly.@umairh and before him Rianne Eisler and other feminists show how the economy we have is built on trauma/dominance https://t.co/UHg82N1OFN
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
1/Makes sense because it's so central to everything happening.
Think about who came to America. https://t.co/RBHYKJ4OPH
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
2/Those traumatized elsewhere who pass it on. *Or* the First Nations whose land this is who were traumatized. @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
3/ *Or* who become aware of their pain and do best to better. Feeling pain and suffering is horrible. Not feeling is worse. @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
4/ It's why I sign off each night now with (among other things) "Stay feeling." The antidote to narcissism and trauma. @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
I started signing off of twitter and facebook in 2007 with “Night good people.” I believe I was the first to do a regular nightly sign off. I wanted to treat it as a time *with* others and to be as human and connecting as possible. I didn’t want to treat my presence in these places with other people like I was broadcasting to nameless “audience” who matter less than I do.
5/ What she did to her own son is horrific and tragic, but Alice Miller's writing about Germany and narcissism taught me a lot @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
6/ Trauma, can also build resilience. It's those who have felt *and handled* pain who will save America. @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
https://twitter.com/heathr/status/834138840436662272
8/ Misogyny, white supremacy etc all linked by projected rage at feelingness (of course while denying rage is a feeling) @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
9/ There is trauma all over the world. (I mean Israel + Palestine are PTSD central). The US seems to have acceleration of all. @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
10/ It's a form of dissociation. The US has attempted to negotiate difference through the marketplace. Folly.https://t.co/1JlQOaCNde
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
12/ Centres the feminine, ends patriarchy, listens to, centres and learns from marginalized folks @umair https://t.co/Bic5XBJhJZ
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
13/ Replace half of Congress with women. Centre Black folk. Who voted most against fascism? Black women. #218in2018https://t.co/Bic5XBJhJZ
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
14/ The answers are in becoming embodied and learning from those who are trusting feeling and embodiment. Who handle feeling. @umair
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
15/ Moments of trauma (US is there ) allow you to re-negotiate your original wounding trauma. If you have support and become aware. @umair
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
16/ I could continue to cover what is happening through a trauma lens if that interests. Trust your body everyone. It keeps the score.@umair
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
1/Makes sense because it's so central to everything happening.
Think about who came to America. https://t.co/RBHYKJ4OPH
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
18/…of handing ones own experience over to someone else, living *through* another, rather than practicing feeling ones own impulses
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
19/ We HAVE what we need.Women are already leading. Best for it to be like LGBT coming out movement:person to personhttps://t.co/dS8rgcvsLh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
20/ Feel your feelings. If you need support check https://t.co/O8SROx0uQU , books by Van der Kolk and Peter Levine if you need science
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
21/ Learn to know what you feel and feel it. Women have been doing this work for decades. Lesbians lead. @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
22/ It makes sense that what is leading in another way of living looks *different* that what has been prized in celeb culture @umair
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
23/ Think about it. This essay is being written by a lesbian on writing "streets" of twitter. Way less celeb culture valued than NYT oped
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
24/ Does that make it / me less valuable? (I've added a link in bio if you want to back my work https://t.co/FG5wA0buRQ) @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
25/ Think of what are antidotes to narcissism. I've worked years on tummeling (https://t.co/brOvi9mmUG | https://t.co/frRucJi2QQ). Also…
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
26/ As I said to many @techsolidarity rooms when I was tummeling/speaking/leading there: it's what's inalienable that'll undo the regime
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
27/ People who presume all is manipulation cannot see the existence or power of what cannot be gamed, hacked, bought, forced. @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
27/ A huge chunk of the economy/culture is driven by numbing and dissociation. Workaholism fits right in there. GTD! Man up. Crush it.@umair https://t.co/Gtq6vzaZtp
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
28/ Think about what is inalienable, what can't be bought: love, sacrifice, humility, genuine relationships and expression, trust @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
29/ More that can't be bought: self-respect, self-acceptance, kind acts, witnessing, Even things you can pay for you cannot *make* ppl do
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
30/ The US would ended up with recreating (more explicitly) abusive Daddy as leader to re-negotiate @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
31/ Fave joke of mine: difference between the Dems and the GOP? "Daddy beat me" and "Daddy beat me for my own good." @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
32/ *Staying in connection* with someone caring calms the nervous system. Feeling the *original* wound is the key to a shift. @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
33/ As long as the left is caught up with intellectually attempting to dissect the right's expression while both avoid feeling: stand still
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
34/ All of the systems of oppression we have rely on separation and isolation "you're on your own." @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
35/ We're social animals. We love feeling together. Having an "allowed" enemy enables a toxic togetherness w projected rage @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
36/ You can't make anyone feel anything either. It's something you have to choose to do. Addicts get sober do because they choose @umairh
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
37/ For more like this please back my writing https://t.co/FG5wA0buRQ . My newsletter is https://t.co/xb0pze1TZN .
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
38/ More TK on US trauma For now I'll leave you with a relevant short talk I gave in the early days of twitter. https://t.co/CNel3yLdKY
— Heather Gold (@heathr) February 21, 2017
